We don’t look anything like Christians of the 1st Century, and before that offends you… we shouldn’t. Their culture was different, entirely different. Even in the most modern of contexts they never experienced anything like the American culture. The pace was different, the expectations were different, and even their aspirations were different.
That is okay, because the task for the child of God is not to look like people of days gone by. The task is to think, behave, and honor like Jesus did. The example of what is God-approved is not so much early Christians (although they did God-approved things), but to live like Jesus. Paul told early Christians, “Be an imitator of me, in the same way that I imitate Jesus.” (1 Corinthians 11:1)
We have to be people who make it our hearts’ desire to communicate the life approach of Jesus to those around us. That isn’t done through deep theological discussions (Jesus didn’t have many of those), but rather through demonstrating a loving respect of people in an effort to draw them closer to God.
The battles that some folks face will not be the same battles that you face. Some fight more with sins of the flesh, others may fight more the sins of the spirit. For some, lustful thoughts about others is the problem. For others, the thoughts might be more envy, or even disgust. Discounting others for the problems they face, because they are different than our own, is failing to recognize that we each are made in God’s image and are worthy of respect for no other reason than that.
This includes nice folks, and not so nice folks. We are told that we cannot bless God and curse those made in his image. There is no caveat that says, “unless they make us uncomfortable”. We are to return a blessing for a curse, obviously the one cursing us isn’t on our “favorites list”. Jesus treated with respect high priests, prostitutes, tax collectors, widows, demonic folks, the destitute, the rich, the strong and the ill. He didn’t allow a person’s background to restrict his acts of kindness to others. Lepers were as welcome to his attention as temple officials.
So, when we try to understand how God wants us to live, don’t look for ‘how you do church’, look for how you ‘touch others’. In doing so, you become much more like the original.