Author Archives: Checking The Mail

About Checking The Mail

I am Carl Feril, a minister and Licensed Clinical Marriage and Family Therapist. I am married to Janet, who is far better than I deserve, and have two wonderful sons. CW is living in Waterloo, KS and is married to Kelly through whom I have 4 step-grandsons and 10 great-grandkids. Orrin lives here in St John and is married to Meagan, and they have Jayce and Mara. God has blessed me beyond measure and I hope to share all those blessings with others.

Nothing or Everything

Janet and I are like many working couples. We say our goodbyes before 7a and greet each other again around 11-12 hours later. It is pretty typical to ask how the day went, any intriguing happenings or things that went … Continue reading

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Self Control

I work with kids for multiple reasons. Many of those I work with are on the lower end of social skills. They tend to overreact to what happens to them. Many of them have been victims of being bullied, often … Continue reading

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The Schemes of Mice and Men

Do you ever try to plan things that are out of your control? Of course you have.  In reality, future things are never in our control. You can plan a crop and get too small a yield. The yield can … Continue reading

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Daring To Think

The history of the Restoration Movement is one of evolving and changing as new understandings and ideas are examined, adopted or rejected. Free thought and exchange of ideas is rare and to be highly prized. I value having such freedom. Continue reading

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Transitions of Power

I must decrease that he might increase. That was the way John the Baptist described his vision of his task. After a successful time of ministry, where entire communities and regions came out to hear his proclaiming the coming Christ … Continue reading

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Discipline For Me

I became engaged in a verbal altercation this week. I asked a man to refrain from calling an older woman a profane name. Without going into any detail, the issue was resolved. After I returned home, I reflected on my behavior. … Continue reading

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A Happy Man

It is an interesting life when people have this type of attitude. Each morning on rising, within our jamming group, someone had coffee ready. Immediately food preparation began; eggs, bacon, sausage, peppers, onions… the grills were putting out the food. … Continue reading

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Getting Stuck

We spent a couple of nights in our motorhome in Oxford, KS last week. It rained a lot, but we spent time with good friends and enjoyed it. While we were gone, the batteries in the thermostat in the house … Continue reading

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The “But I Don’t Want To” Exemption

“They are being mean to me. How should I respond?” It is a pretty common question that people struggle with when relationships fracture. Among friends, family, or ex-spouses, the question arises repeatedly. As a therapist, I understand the dynamic; a … Continue reading

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Fair is Fair, Or Is It?

God spends lots of time in Scripture, pressing the idea that those who are different should have the same access to fair treatment as those who look like us. Continue reading

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