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About Checking The Mail

I am Carl Feril, a minister and Licensed Clinical Marriage and Family Therapist. I am married to Janet, who is far better than I deserve, and have two wonderful sons. CW is living in Waterloo, KS and is married to Kelly through whom I have 4 step-grandsons and 10 great-grandkids. Orrin lives here in St John and is married to Meagan, and they have Jayce and Mara. God has blessed me beyond measure and I hope to share all those blessings with others.

Connections

Bruce Cox and Don Ferrill are two cousins I haven’t seen in decades. In different family conversations their names come up from time to time, but since we were children gathered in a little front room around a Christmas tree … Continue reading

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A Good Man Has Died

Spiritual growth isn’t an instantaneous activity that can be marked on a daily chart. It happens a bit at a time, gradually, but you don’t see it each day. Today I read where an old friend died of pancreatic cancer. … Continue reading

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When Truth Runs Amok

All he wanted to be, his focus was right So he worked at it daily, with all his might. Correction of error, refinement, realignment These, the tools that shaped the assignment   But along the way he lost sight of … Continue reading

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To Post or Not to Post?

James tells me, Be quick to hear, slow to speak, and slow to anger. For the anger of a man does not achieve the righteousness of God. Implicit in his statement is the concept that followers of God are motivated by … Continue reading

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Do Good, Keep Doing Good

I like to help people. I like to help those who are struggling with their walk in the Christ. I like to help those who are entangled in sin. I like to help those who are trapped by what they … Continue reading

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Us or Them?

So, how can I keep silence in the face of injustice, or turn a blind eye to the abuse of others? Now before you think I am going to post one of the memes that you’ve seen in Facebook of … Continue reading

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Secret Money

One of the faith building things that happens in my life takes place when we put out an appeal for a particular project. They don’t necessarily happen every week, but usually I have the experience monthly. Someone will come up … Continue reading

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How Do I Deepen my Relationship?

When Janet and I first met, she was about to turn 16 and I was approaching 18; we lived across Denver from each other. I was spending lots of time in a school of preaching while she was a junior … Continue reading

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Sometimes a Man’s Gotta Do What a Man’s Gotta Do

Today, I trimmed my beard. I am not sure why today instead of yesterday, but today was the day. I looked in the mirror and thought, “That is too long, it needs a trim.” I looked in the same mirror … Continue reading

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Graduations and Milestones

As many are acknowledging milestones in their lives at this time of the year, I’ve been reflecting on some of them. There are those who are experiencing milestones in their educational progression. Some are experiencing a first transition as kindergarten … Continue reading

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